Divorce...

GodIsGlorious · Site Admin Joined: 04 May 2006 Posts: 904

I posted this comment on one of my blog posts recently...

Quote:

Since God is the creator of marriage I believe that the spouse you are married to is the person that God intends for you to be with until "death do you part." For those, Christians or non-Christians, who do get divorced, I believe that happens out of the sin and hardness of their own hearts.

In response I received a comment and I am attempting to move the discussion to this forum...

The next post will be from Nina, the person who left the comment...

GodIsGlorious · Site Admin Joined: 04 May 2006 Posts: 904

Nina wrote:

Just noticed this post . . . . perhaps we could have a conversation about the devastation of divorce when only one partner wants the marriage to work and the other one chooses to destroy the relationship. You are so right . . . . divorce is always a result of sin, but it does happen to some of us even when we have tried for many years to figure out how to make it work. Interested in chatting? Nina

GodIsGlorious · Site Admin Joined: 04 May 2006 Posts: 904

In Pursuit of His Call wrote:

With regards to your comment about divorce...We certainly cannot deny a situation where one chooses to destroy the relationship...The Bible doesn't ignore that either...Ideally, God's desire is for a couple to remain married and He hates divorce. In Ephesians 5, marriage is ultimately described as a picture of Christ's relationship to the church. That is how sacred God sees marriage. Yet, I think, it is in either 1st or 2nd Corinthians that Paul addresses marriage and that one grounds for divorce is when an unbeliever leaves his spouse. As you have already agreed to, divorce is a result of sin and you have expressed that there are some couples where 1 wants to make the marriage work while the other 1 chooses to destroy the relationship. The ideal solution, especially if this is a Christian couple, is to bring the 1 hardened partner back to the flock, through repentance and a turning away from his/her sin. The hope is that his/her heart will be softened and seek forgiveness and reconciliation. Yet, we cannot deny that some hearts will not be softened and he/she will choose to end the marriage.

It's funny because this morning I was just thinking about how DearHubby and I are complete opposite of one another and in all honesty, throughout our marriage, we have had some major arguments where those on the outside would say, "They are bound for divorce." If we were both not saved, it's sad and hard for me to say this, but I think that DearHubby and I may have gotten divorced within our first year of marriage. However, thankfully, by God's grace, the one thing that holds our marriage together is our faith in Jesus Christ. God has graciously given the both of us the desire to do what is pleasing to Him. And it is a wonder how God's words just pierce our hearts and remind us of our fleshly and indwelling sins and as a result of recognizing our sinfulness, DearHubby and I have been able to go to one another often, seek forgiveness, give forgiveness, and reconcile. I think that is the exact picture that God had in mind about marriage; forgiveness and reconciliation. Christ died on the cross and sacrificed His life for our sins so that we can be forgiven and reconciled to our God. It is not about perfection, but about forgiveness and reconciliation. Our marriage is FAR from perfect, but I do thank God that He is faithful in making us more and more like Jesus and because of that hope, I trust that our marriage bond has grown stronger.

Well, that is my 2 cents worth on this discussion...If you respond and I don't respond immediately, it might be because I just had my second child. I am just days away from giving birth and so I might be absent from the internet for a time...